Nobody seems to want to work at their marriages anymore. The operative word here is ‘work’. Most people forget that any relationship, not to mention, a marriage is a lot of work. . It’s not going to be a honeymoon forever. Once the honeymoon wears off, people want out! The rest of the world including Africa always believed that this was just a western phenomenon, but the divorce rate in Nigeria and the rest of Africa is quickly rising. Is it TV, movies or are we just a plain lazy generation? The doivorce rate in America is now at 50%. It doesn’t just happen with celebrities and high profile marriages anymore, regular folks are getting in on the act. Back when our parents were married, they believed in working through tough patches in a relationship in order to make it work. They knew that it would not always be roses and candy. It will be rocky at times. They were prepared.
Everybody loses in a divorce. The biggest losers are the kids. I don’t care what anybody says, kids lives are damaged in a divorce, no matter how amiccable the divorce is. Any kind of instability screws up childrens lives. It causes them to feel an insecurity that they are not equiped to handle. You can always see the difference in behaviour between a child raised in a two parent home as opposed to a broken one. In many situations, therapy doesn’t fix these kids. They go out into the world as damaged people. Ticking time bombs. Many marriages end due to selfishness. One spouse decides that they don’t want to work on the relationship any more and are willing to walk out on everyone, including kids. ‘They grow apart’. How the hell do you grow apart? There are signs that there are problems way before it gets to the point of no return. Talk for God’s sake!!! People just don’t talk to each other anymore.
Another reason why many marriages end up in divorce is because most people do not think their actions through. Do I truly love this person or do they just look good on paper? Is this who I want to spend the rest of my life with? Is this someone I want to spend every waking moment with? Do they drive me up the wall? Do I sometimes visualize strangling them in their sleep? Am I getting married because it’s what I’m supposed do? Am I getting married because I’m at the getting married age? These are questions that if not answered, will definitely lead to a miserable marriage and ultimately divorce. Check yourself before you get into a doomed marriage.
Most relationships are made with the intention to never end, but sometimes, somehow or somewhere along the line, the sparks and the trust may fade away and then the romance goes. Breakups can happen to anyone, but celebrities are the ones whose affairs get the most attention. Here’s the 5 celebrity breakups that got me writing:
Heidi and Seal: Heidi Klum and Seal confirmed to People magazine that they are splitting. Over the weekend, the buzz on the split of the supermodel from her singer husband of over six years was reported by several celebrity news websites like TMZ and Radar Online. However, there was no statement from the couple or their reps.
Now, People magazine is carrying a statement from Heidi and Seal saying they have decided to separate. The couple have requested privacy for the sake of their children. As reported by TMZ earlier, Heidi and Seal will apparently file divorce papers in the LA County Superior Court early this week. They have four children.
Katy Perry – Russell Brand: Russell Brand, who married Katy Perry in India in October 2010, filed for divorce on the last day of 2011. They only lasted one year. Are you kidding me!! According to gossip website TMZ, Russell said: “Sadly, Katy and I are ending our marriage. I’ll always adore her and I know we’ll remain friends.”
Russell, 36, and Katy had fueled speculation all was not well in their marriage after spending Christmas 7,000 miles apart, with Katy in Hawaii and Russell in Cornwall, South West England. The couple reportedly had a “massive fight” over the festive season.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher
Demi Moore decided to end her marriage to Ashton Kutcher in November after six years.
“It is with great sadness and a heavy heart that I have decided to end my six-year marriage to Ashton. As a woman, a mother and a wife, there are certain values and vows that I hold sacred, and it is in this spirit that I have chosen to move forward with my life. This is a trying time for me and my family, and so I would ask for the same compassion and privacy that you would give to anyone going through a similar situation,” Moore said in her statement to the Associated Press.
The separation allegedly happened because rumors of Ashton’s infidelity. With a 15-year gap between Demi (49) and Kutcher (33), the divorce seemed to be expected by the public, despite some arguments saying that the age difference was irrelevant.
Was it a shocking breakup or an “I told you so” moment?
Another tough one. What’s going on with the kids?
Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger
A recent report by celebrity gossip Web site TMZ said that Shriver was considering putting her divorce from the former California governor on hold.
That’s probably the nicest Christmas gift for the Schwarzenegger family, but remember why they got into the divorce case in the first place. With the couple getting back together, is it really the best step to take?
Earlier this year, a report came out stating that Schwarzenegger had an affair and a love child with a trusted family maid Mildred Baena, who kept the secret for almost 14 years. Can someone say douche bag?
An article by the Daily Mail included a statement from a family friend: “Arnold desperately wants Maria to forgive him and take him back, but she can’t get past his deception at this point. However, he still has a strong emotional influence over her.”
Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony
J. Lo announced her divorce from Marc Anthony in August after seven years of marriage.
Recently, their divorce is getting a lot uglier than it seemed when it first reported. Apparently the two are ready to fight for custody of their twins, Emme and Max.
Poor kids. They will be the ones that lose and pay
Allegedly, Marc was not too happy with the bond between J. Lo’s new lover Casper Smart and the couple’s children.
However, it didn’t take Marc long to move on, either. A report by the Australian publication The Herald said the Latin singer was spotted having a lunch date with a rumored new girlfriend, model Adriana Ontiveros.
Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries
Kim Kardashian. There’s always something going with her.
Recently, she called off her marriage to NBA player Kris Humphries after just 10 weeks being together.
“After careful consideration, I have decided to end my marriage,” Kardashian said in a statement published by entertainment channel E! Online. Are you kidding me? 72 days. Young people look at this type of behaviour and think it’s cool.
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